The funny thing about finding local sex is that it’s easy to assume that it’s the personalities of the members that makes the website. I really can’t blame you for thinking this way because most of us have been conditioned to think that what made the Oprah TV show such a success is because of the distinct personality and life experiences of Ms. Oprah Winfrey. That’s the reason why she’s a multi-billionaire. Similarly, the reason why a lot of people think Lady Gaga is such a successful performer is because of her personality and, of course, her talent.

This actually makes a lot of sense if the kind of entertainment you’re into is a one-way entertainment. In other words, if you’re just going to sit down in front of a TV set and listen to and watch Oprah’s show, then that kind of thinking regarding her success would be spot on. The same goes with Lady Gaga.

The problem is when you are on the internet doing XXX dating and you are engaged with a member in a hot live chat session, it’s no longer a passive experience. You actually have a lot to say as far as your experience goes. In other words, you are engaged in interactive entertainment. It’s all about call and response. You have to give something to get something. Do you see where I’m coming from with this? It’s a two-way street.

In this type of entertainment, the dynamics have changed. So, if you’ve developed a certain mindset or a set of expectations regarding regular, pre-canned, one-way entertainment, you need to let go of those as soon as possible. Why? They’re not going to serve your best interest because you’re dealing with interactive, live, two-way conversation. You just need to look at it as a conversation and step up your conversation skills for you to get the best experience. That’s the best advice I could give you.